Fetish, Gardner, and the Scourge

For some reason, I feel driven to write about sex – well, not sex.  Fetishes.  Fetishes are those feelings…those needs that you have, perhaps from a prepubescent age, that are sexual, but not related to a directly sexual act.  Depending on the type of fetish, it may become a lifestyle.

This post is being created because I people watch, and often, fetishes are the butt of everyone’s sexual jokes.  “I don’t do that” someone will say haughtily, when I know of an instance where someone engages in that behavior because they can’t help it.  But, those with fetishes and alternative desires are not diseased.  The engaging in the behavior is a choice.  They are not weak for having strange urges.  And that discrimination, less recognized than that against homosexuals, but no less hurtful – upsets me.

Because fetishes are of interest to me, I have accumulated a fair amount of knowledge over the years – as any exploratory teen would attest to.  Within that knowledge, I have found many ‘case studies’ of those people who, as mentioned before, had these urges from a prepubescent stage of their life, before they knew what “sex” was.  Are fetishes genetic?  Do they run through families or the father or the mother?  What spawns fetishes, if they’re not genetic, but present in prepubescent stages?  People with fetishes can’t *all* have screwed up childhoods or abuse stories.  Most don’t.

And those who have fetishes are not driven to those, and kept beyond their abilities to use their brains.  By this, I mean that, people with fetishes are intelligent!   Just because something drives them, doesn’t mean it controls them.  They can even go so far as to discuss their lifestyles with dignity and a fair amount of contemplation.

And this brings me to my next point.  The “Sacrifice” within a Gardnerian ritual involves the scourge.  You scourge the initiate as their test, and the act, itself, is very ritualized.  The act, though perhaps not intended to deal a massive amount of pain, is certainly not intended to deal pleasure.

How then, are those who follow the Gardnerian traditions expected to participate within the rituals, if they possess any sort of domination/submission, spanking, whipping, or other masochistic fetish?  For men, how are they supposed to kneel, skyclad, and receive their strokes without reacting to it as they have in the same instance, with their partner wielding a similar instrument?  How are women supposed to live out their ‘darkest’ fantasy of being whipped, while maintaining proper etiquette within the circle?

Is there something inherently wrong with becoming aroused in a circle that was not cast for sex or the Great Rite?  Is there something inherently wrong with becoming aroused during the scourging process?  How about the binding?

We value sex as pleasure, yet it has its place, too.  Should there be an alternate ritual process for those who enjoy the beating?  Or are we made – regardless of fetish – somewhere deep inside, to all get a little aroused from the scourging?  Was Gardner, from whom we receive the scourging rituals, himself a sadist or a masochist?

Does this bring into question the integrity of the rituals at hand?

I will try to tackle these questions at a better time than 2 o’clock in the morning; one by one.  Any comments?

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6 responses to “Fetish, Gardner, and the Scourge

  1. There are a lot of theories behind sexual fetishism including trauma, brain construction, heredity, pathological associations, imprinting, and psychosexual development. With some exceptions, I tend to think of many fetishes as normal variations of human sexuality.

    As far as the scourge in ritual is concerned, in my experience, it is not intended to be painful despite its symbolism. It is intended to move energy and induce trance and it’s the dull repetition that gets you there, not any sense of pain.

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with becoming aroused in circle, but I think that if this happens repeatedly in a standard circle, a religious ceremony, there’s a problem.

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  3. I think getting exited for a moment is not a problem and may even be excellent. The energy is as I understand it, meant to be drawn up. So continuing to be exited would likely be self indulgence and a lack of success, in achieving the desired state.

  4. I found this post very late. I googled “genetic behind fetish”. And I did it because I am what they call a fetishist… I enjoy being submissive to a point. I enjoy pain to a point too. Only to a point and not everywhere. But surfing the internet, you soon realize that it is not random, it is not some brain disfunction. I dont say that to cover my own bum but, look at it! Saying that Somehow related to an illness, or even a slight mistake in our build is simply silly. Because it’s divided in groups. I can speak only from man point of view: Google ballbusting. You will find thousands of sites about men who enjoy a healthy kick in the groin. Some likes a whipping, some likes to be stepped on with high heels, some enjoy a “different” diet. However, it turns out 85% of them developed this “need” or drive as children. Without knowing why, without knowing what sex was at all. I like pain from high heels… But the best pleasure is in one exact spot of my body: right above the belly button. And it turns out that almost everyone who have a similar tendency, enjoy it in the exact same place. There MUST be a reason. And it is inescapable, DNA must have something to do with it. Somehow some (dare I say many) of us were created to serve somewhat a purpose. What do you think?

  5. Wicca has become an alternative to most Christian religions, that have fallen out of favor because they haven’t kept up with the times. Lack of relevency. Wicca’s strength, as well as its downfall, are a clear lack of defining, guideing principles, for the youth that flock to it.
    As unhip as this sounds, marriage, as well as education, are the keys to escaping poverty. Any “religion” that does not prioritize the welfare of the children, and educate the youth to respect themselves, are condeming them and thier offspring to a life cycle of poverty. Such a “religion” actually degrades the women it claims to empower.

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